Sunday, 20 April 2014

One way I handle the fear of being judged

Happy Easter.I hope all of you are having a good day so far :)

If you know me or have been reading this blog one of my biggest issue in life was fear of being judged obviously this has affected my fitness plans and life many times. I am really focusing on this fear in 2014 and I want to move past it. I want to be somebody who doesn't stop midway because I am worried about what people will say I have been consciously going out of my comfort zone one thing that has helped me with this is 
'Believing that people are nice'
It's a simple thing but makes a lot of difference....
Would I ever make fun of somebody who is entering the gym for the first time?
would I ever judge somebody who can't run for too long?
would I ever judge somebody who is trying to adjust in a new place?
The answer to all these questions is No...then why do I assume people would judge me for my running speed? or when I am new to a place? or when I am don't know something...

If I believe people are nice then I believe they will encourage me or support me when I am scared, trying something new or lost because they are all nice they will not judge me...(just knowing this helps me be more comfortable and personally I have been in situations when complete strangers have come forward to help me with adjusting my equipment in the gym..)

I am not saying this is the only way of getting over the fear of being judged but this is one way for me.What do you think?
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  1. I've only ever been encouraged or supported at the gym (outside the gym is different story). I think we are only projecting our own insecurities when we assume people are judging us. I think I'm over the worst of it for the most part.

    Happy Easter!

  2. I am very much the same, I have joined the gym and have only been twice and one of those times was for my induction but i fear going at peak time which is when i can normally go because of the fear of people judging me for being so unfit. its hard to move past and something i am trying to work on too.

  3. I would not judge anyone. But, there are people sadly who judge.
    I too fear this still. I am not fit yet..not something I aspire to be.
    I admire the fact that despite all your fears you did not surrender... keep it up lady!

  4. That is a great way to look at it! I find judgmental people really annoying because I know what it feels like to be looked at, judged, and pigeon-holed into the category of "fat and lazy."

  5. Yes its not easy to beat ur fear first time. But once u beat it its easy from there on. Good blog again. I inspirational.

  6. Hi Tanvee

    Sorry I’ve not been around too much lately, but I’ve had a few days off sorting out some family health issues. As the saying goes sometimes real life intervenes …but all is going well now.

    Yes, there are all sorts of people out there some very supportive, some more judgemental ...and some in-between.

    I've found that if I smile and treat people as I would want to be treated - then I'm off to a good start.

    Wish you well on your continued journey

    All the best Jan