Have you noticed how much people around you change when you start making healthier choices? Suddenly you feel like everybody is going against you, everybody seems to be causing problems in your fitness journey; you feel like nobody understands where you are coming from...
when people ask me how do I handle such situations? My first response has always been ‘Stay strong,
remember what you want and continue your journey without letting anybody affect
you’
There is one more thing I keep in mind this is specially true
for people who love me ‘they are also
new to the change, so they will take time to get used to it’. Just like I
don’t like them judging me, I should stop judging them too, stop assuming
they mean harm instead try to understand where they are coming from. Most are
genuinely concerned about my health.
Personally I have noticed my family and friends assumed I
was starving myself. They were not used to seeing me eat smaller portions, they were all used to seeing me enjoy junk food. So when they saw the new me they worried I was not eating anything and would get sick;
they thought I was losing all my weight by just eating less. Initially I would
get irritated every time they tried to force me to eat, then at one point I
started telling anybody who worried about my food what my usual food intake is that’s
when a few people stepped back because they were convinced I was not doing anything unhealthy.
I have taken time
out to explain why I eat what I eat, I tell them the reason for my choice and also explain to them how I make sure I am not missing out on any nutrition. All this reduces people from making assumptions and
usually once they stop making assumptions I have noticed it gets easier because
they understand me. I have had many people worry about me
getting weaker or falling sick because of my eating habits that's when I tell them about my
workouts, I tell them how much I have changed and how much more I can do now. That
alone is enough to say I am eating well, because if I wasn’t eating
right I would never be able to keep up with my workout and life.
Usually sharing all this has helped most of my family and
friends understand my choices better and they are also convinced I am doing
alright and to all those people who still don’t get my lifestyle that’s their
headache :) :) not mine
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Tanvee 
We are the experts on us, but everyone has an opinion. And in cultures where food represents love/socializing, it's a hard hurdle to jump. My Italian in-laws still try to give me pasta every time I eat there. It's been 3 years that I've been grain free. They still hold out hope I will eat it again one day:-)
ReplyDeleteWell, you know how my situation is. It's dam hard to 'convince' people that --we are happy and that we would rather NOT eat that pizza slice!
ReplyDeleteI still am not sure though, that do we need to tell people who are not very close to us that why won't we eat?
like kitty or some pool dinner?)
Nice post, and thanks for sharing!
We had this conversation, didn't we? :)
ReplyDeleteIt definitely takes time for both us and others around us to realize that the changes we made/are making are permanent and enjoyable. It's such a relief when they do come around though. I like what you said about just like you don't want to be judged, they shouldn't be judged either.
"and to all those people who still don’t get my lifestyle that’s their headache :) :) not mine"
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely !
You are doing great Tanvee
All the best Jan
U need to be fully aware of what u r eating like you to counter any one...I m long way from it...I m still not fully focused... U r well on target ...all the best for future too
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